Last night
I had the most amazing dream. If you looked at the dream at face value, you may
have said that it was a bad dream; but for me I learned more in one night than
I was able to learn in these past few months of fumbling. I feel like I have
been tasting these truths but ultimately not digesting them. I have been
vigilantly seeking them, knowing their reality but not quite feeling it or
capturing it. I have been trying my best to shine the light on them, and like
all things they came to me in their own time when I was ready.
As is true for all of us we go through periods
of intense growth and change; sometimes we call these times positive and
sometimes we call them negative. What is always true is that they break our
containers, or break us out of them. A container is how we define ourselves or
life. They are our coping mechanisms, our emotional and mental patterns, they
are our habits and habitual reactions. I have been spending the last few months
or to be more accurate years breaking my containers on purpose and it has been
an amazing journey. Once a container is broken we can reach and experience all
new levels of being and living. It is like we can finally see the truth and it
allows us the ability to create health, success and manifest with more and more
ease. There seems to be ever more depths and heights to this life and what is
possible; possible to create, possible to feel or possible to experience, all
we have to do is step outside our containers. Breaking out of or dissolving our
old containers can often be scary because in a way it is a leap; and like all
leaps before we take them they are unknown. It is very vulnerable and the old
containers, though constricting and sometimes down right icky, can also feel
very comforting.
One thing they will do is keep us exactly where
we are, there is a status quo that old containers create, we may not see
exactly how they do it, but they do. This is true because we unconsciously make
choices or partake in specific behaviours that insure we do not grow. I have
always found it more beneficial to face the fear and anxiety of breaking our
containers then to remain within them. In fact, I have come to associate
restless anxiety with meeting the edges of my own container that I am ready to
outgrow. I know when it is time to grow because I feel bored and anxious and
like I am on the edge of a canyon but I don’t know what is coming or is needed,
only that it is. The old container if we are not vigilantly aware of it, or we
don’t understand its specific edges can slip back on. This is a natural part of
growth and I feel like it is our period of learning, to slip in and out of it.
I feel like what I learnt last night is not only helpful in this transition
period but for all of our life. Without further ado, here are the things I
learnt:
- You do not need to have complete awareness of all the moving parts to manifest or create.
- The only anchor you need in life to feel safe is your vision and a connection to yourself.
- You cannot create self-connection through anchoring without.
- Stay on the road, or on the path. As long as you stay on the path that your vision (anchor) is driving you on then everything else will be taken care of along the way.
- Timing and arriving on a schedule will no longer matter, it will also be taken care of all by itself.
- Always investigate all new situations and guide from the heart and your anchor. Do not jump onto someone or something else’s bus just because they/it are passionate, enigmatic or have a sense of urgency.
- If this happens then it is a detour, detours always manage to come back to the main route so relax, but remember they are not necessary.
- People can join you or not, revel in and love the connection for what it is but don’t slow down for them.
- Always allow flow, there is never a need to grasp on to another … (you can substitute basically anything here,) allow the journey and remain true to yourself and your experience.
- Reflect on the beauty of your endings with gratitude. They can be spectacular when viewed from above.
- Often times we mistake leaping for dying.
- It is impossible to navigate the leap through the old container; it will be like speaking the wrong language.
- If everything is new then you have to be open to learn everything new, it is the closing down of wanting to learn that creates fear and stops us from navigating and flowing.
My old container – The following is a look into one
of my old containers. The edges are well defined and it is quickly fading away
as I vigilantly notice when and where I climb back into it.
I always feared that if I did not vigilantly
have awareness of all the moving parts then I would lose control and crash. It
is actually impossible to be aware of all the moving parts, and so I would
always feel unsafe. This would spur me to try to create anchors out of people,
businesses, situations, shopping (substitute anything here.) As long as I had
an external anchor then I would feel anxious because there would come a time
when all external would dissolve. This would lead me to making many, many
detours for people, business, situations, you name it because I would need them
to be my anchors and so I needed them to stay the same and or fulfill the
promise we will do it or create it for you. I would feel guilty or scared and
give too much, losing my centre and myself.
I have always had a vision and a dream and knew
the purity and beauty of it. I was always able to create small portions or
chunks of this vision and wondered if that was enough, because I was too afraid
to truly leap because it felt to much like dying, too much like annihilation;
albeit I was not aware of this consciously. I didn’t want to learn because that
meant leaping which would mean being able to be completely and utterly open and
vulnerable and so I stopped the flow. I clung to my old container over and over
again. I would climb out of it periodically in order to understand and heal
something or to create something and then I would climb back in again.
Old containers seem to contain a type of amnesia;
we seem to forget time and time again the epiphanies and lessons we learnt
while outside of them. We then seem to have to relearn these epiphanies and
lessons each time we climb back out. This is also part of the process of
growing. It is like testing the waters and we have to learn these lessons and
epiphanies on many levels before they truly integrate completely and we leave
the old containers behind for good. The other interesting aspect of being in an
old container is that we almost want to take it with us into the new one. We
try to make little allowances or rationalizations like oh if I just do this or
this then I can still be the same but will create what I really want. Unfortunately,
as we learnt above you can’t navigate the other side of your leaps with the old
container, and this is true because as long as you are inside of it you will
never actually leap. The more awareness and self-love we have throughout this
process the easier and faster it will be.
I don’t know if you can relate to
any or all of this, but each time we climb out of our old containers we become
more and more comfortable, powerful and confident in our sense of playful
exuberance. These truths take on a more powerful abundant glow and they radiate
through and annihilate the fear because we can feel them in our cores. They
anchor in, and when we anchor in to ourselves we are unstoppable. When we are unstoppable, then we are free.
Please feel free to leave comments or questions, or to share your own stories about old containers and lessons you have learned.
Charlotte Brammer,
Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapist
Equine Assisted Therapist
Reiki Master
Living Clarity
